Well I'm still crashed. Yesterday I was feeling a bit better. Because I was feeling a bit better, I went the the market for 1/2 hour in the morning. Then in the evening, I took Teagan to the dog park. It was obviously too much as I feel really bad again today....which sucks because the sun is shining for a change and I'm feeling antsy to get out and enjoy it...But I feel so so fluey I know it's not a good idea.....I'll have to settle for some time sitting in the back yard.
It's hard being chronically ill and living alone. But there are both pros and cons.
For example, there are times, when I'm feeling really sick, that living alone is probably a good thing. Talking to people and socializing takes energy. Living alone allows me to rest, nap and sleep when I need to. It's always quiet. Also, I find when I'm feeling really ill and there are people around I have a short temper. It's hard to deal with people when I'm feeling awful.
On the other hand, for the last 4+ years of this illness I've lived alone in a city where I don't have too many friends (It's hard to make and keep friends when you really can't do too much). So when I'm house-bound sometimes I can go a week or more without talking to a single person face-to-face. It can be quite isolating.
Tomorrow, two of my good friends are moving to Thunder Bay. We're going to rent a house together. I'm looking forward to it for several reasons. For one, it will be nice simply to have friends in town that I know well. Second, when I'm quite ill it will help to have someone around who is able to grocery shop, shovel the driveway, etc. And finally, when I'm house-bound, I'm looking forward to having company - even if it's just talking to someone face-to-face once a day.
I understand what you mean about the pros and cons of living alone with chronic illness. Before I met my husband but after I became ill (and before I was diagnosed), I lived alone in a foreign country for two years (I was teaching English). I can relate to your entire post.
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